I thought about it for a minute, and then said, "I'm not sure how it works. I know he decided that it was time for him to go to heaven and so I think God helped him."
"Why did he go to heaven?"
"Everyone goes there eventually. I'm not sure why."
"Are you going to go to heaven?"
"Someday. A long time from now."
"But I don't want you to go to heaven. Because then I won't have a mommy." At this point his eyes were getting red. "And you'll be lonely if you go all by yourself."
"Oh, Finn. It's a long long time before I'll be ready to go to heaven. You'll be grown up with kids of your own by then."
"But I don't want you to go. If you go to heaven, there won't be a mommy. Only daddies. And I don't want you to go."
I came around to give him a hug. "I'm not going anywhere right now."
He hugged me back. "Don't go to heaven. If you leave, I won't have anyone who loves me."
"No one will ever love you the way I do, Finn. But you have lots of people who love you. And as you get older, you'll have lots more people who love you."
"Why?"
"Because you're a wonderful little boy and you'll be a wonderful man when you grow up."
"Men aren't wonderful."
"Yes they are, PopPop is wonderful, isn't he?"
Finn thought for a minute. "Yes, he is. But girls aren't wonderful."
"They aren't?"
"No, they're fantastic."
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First off...love this. I love how you made all his fears ok to feel, yet reassured him at the same time. I love how he loves you. And I love knowing that one day we have to get our two girl-loving boys together!!!
ReplyDeleteAwwww, I'm sorry about your kitty. :(
ReplyDeleteAlso, it sounds like you're dealing with the tough questions Finn throws at you quite well!
Wow, what a heartbreaking conversation to have with a child....until the end, that was hilarious! I'm guessing Finn has a girlfriend or two!
ReplyDeleteIsn't it amazing... the conversations we have with our kids? They can be so smart and insightful. Finn is just so sweet!
ReplyDeleteSuch a sweet boy!
ReplyDeleteWhat a precious boy you have! Conversations like that break your heart & makes it swell at the same time
ReplyDeleteMade me tear up such a special little guy! You are wonderful Finn and you are right mommy is fantastic!
ReplyDeleteAnd let the philosophical conversations begin! So sweet.
ReplyDeleteoh, so sweet!
ReplyDeleteNicely done.
ReplyDeleteSeems to be a common theme, BB is always saying "I wish you won't die" at the moment. Love the ending of your post though. You handled the conversation very well
ReplyDeleteAwwwwwwww. So glad you documented that, so you can come back to it in the future.
ReplyDeleteWow, what a conversation!! You handled it really well. And I love that he thinks girls are fantastic, LOL!
ReplyDeletekids--simply profound. Love this.
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